but darling, we cannot make people love us by loving them harder


Voices in the Wind (2020)


Maybe it's both a blessing and a curse to have so much love to give. This love lingers in the air, wraps around the heart and settles deep within your soul, making you feel everything so intensely that it can be both a comfort and a burden. It's a fire that warms you yet it can also burn you if you're not careful.

When we meet others, we dive into a vast ocean of endless ideas, stories and experiences. Each encounter is a chance to explore the depths of another person's heart. I've seen their eyes light up with joy, felt their heart break with sorrow and touched their souls in ways that words can't capture. I've poured out love like a river, showing them just how much I care but sometimes who've never known a love that fights for them, may feel overwhelmed by the very thing that is meant to uplift them. What feels like a warmth to me can feel like chains to them, binding them to a vulnerability they fear. They may see this love as a sign of weakness, a loss of freedom and in their struggle to breathe, they may pull away and that's the tricky part about love. You try so hard to understand, to support, to cherish hoping they feel valued and safe in your embrace. You want to be the anchor in their storm, the light in their darkness. Yet, despite giving your all, despite laying bare your heart and soul sometimes it just isn't enough for them to stay or to see you the way you see them. It's a painful realization that love is not alway reciprocal that the intensity of your feelings may not always be matched by theirs. They love you but not a much as you love them. 

So, you let them walk away, watching them fade into the shadows of life they can't seem to escape. Each step feels like a dagger to your heart, a reminder of the love you offered so freely now slipping through your fingers like a sand. You want to call out, to pull them back to remind them of the warmth you once shared but you sometimes love is not enough to keep someone close. You stand there feeling the weight of their absence, the echo of their laughter haunting your thoughts. It's heartbreaking to realize that sometimes, loving someone fiercely doesn't guarantee that they'll love you back the same way. You're left with the remnants of what could have been, the dream you built together now shattered like a glass. You wonder if they ever truly understand the depth of your feelings, if they ever felt the same way or if your love was simply too much for them to bear.      

In the silence that follows their departure, you grapple with the ache in your chest, the longing for connection that feels unfulfilled. You questioned yourself, wondering if you were too much, too intense or too eager to give. The love that once felt like a blessing now feels like a haunting reminder of what you've lost, the days turn into weeks, you learn to navigate life with this new emptiness. You find solace in memories but they are all bittersweet. You realized that love, in all its beauty can also bring profound sorrow and sadness. It must be real when they said that the greatest act of love was letting go while your heart may ache, you hold onto the hope that one day, you'll find someone who can embrace your love without fear, someone who sees the beauty in vulnerability and understand that true love is not a chain but a complete freedom that allows both souls to soar.     

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