A Love Letter to Female Friendships

" Nearly everything I know about love, I've learnt from my long term friendships with women "  - Dolly Alderton, Everything I Know About Love : A Memoir

There is certain intimacy to female friendships. You experience love in the most bizzare ways. To find comfort being with friends and spark something that no one else can make you feel. They have the power to make you cry and laugh until you can't. Sit and talk for hours discussing about each other's most sensible thoughts or stories full of absurdity. To soak into fathomless of conversations that fills up your soul. You may exist peacefully and be surrounded by each other's presence without the continual need to amuse them. It just feels so serene and pleasant that time passing feels so illegal because you don't want to go home yet. Each time you spend with another fix a heart they don't even break. 

In times of being scared and needing some sense of security, they will show up for you in so many beautiful ways. The endless moral support, the constant hype, help, caring for even the smallest gestures, the snapping of photos with them and posing in goofy ways and standing up for them. To appreciate its value and bond. Never would they ever imply that you owe them anything. Along with laughter that breaks up your loneliness, they bring out the most genuine version of you. You don't have to beg anything when it comes to them. They make you feel seen, heard, felt, understood, open and adored. You can be vulnerable without any judgements. The one who understands you between the difference of your normal and isolating days. They've seen your rough time and pick you back up, they heal you with their very own existence. It makes life worth living, to create memories that y'all can cherish and look back someday. To capture those genuine events that feels like you're the only one living creature in this planet. 

The low maintenance friends that you don't see often but always linger to the back of your mind. A friend you always root for silently. You catch up on rare occasions and still find it comforting when you hang around them like the gold old days. To watch and see them grow reaching their dreams, fulfilling their full potential and overcome things they never seem to talk about. Girls who support your growth, who inspire you to become better, who build future with you, believe you can conquer everything, trust you can achieve anything, pray for your guidance and push you to become the best version of yourself. The connections are wholesome about girlhood that have witnessed the multiple versions of you and loved you unconditionally throughout those transformations with support and compassion. 

"When you're looking for love and it seems like you might not ever find it, remember you probably have access to an abundance of it already, just not the romantic kind. This kind of love  might not kiss you in the rain or propose marriage. But it will listen to you, inspire and restore you. It will hold you when you cry, celebrate when you're happy and sing All Saints with you when you're drunk. You have so much to gain and learn from this kind of love. You can carry it with you forever. Keep it as close to you as you can" - Dolly Alderton, Everything I Know About Love : A Memoir

Some silly things you love to do like planning out dates so you have something to look forward for, texting out to have some coffee because you want each other's company, listening to music or movie a friend recommend, exclusively giving a certain day or time to meet up with a friend, it's the thought that someone is willing to spend time with you and missed you and like you and appreciate you for whoever you are, purposely motivating and encouraging each other with sweet or blunt words, being there through each others best and worst times. They become your safe space, a home without pressure . They changes your perspective and how you view the world. Thinking that these human beings leaves a little part of themselves with you in life that whenever you come across a food you think about them, a certain place or art or music you think about them, a story they have told you, a small item they gave to you. You adopt their silly little mannerisms without noticing. 

Realizing that these moments will not always be here. We won't be in our twenties with our friends living in the same city forever. For a moment we'll hope for time to stop and just be teenage forever. Just the thought of friends growing old makes these eyes bawl out with tears. It's scary and exciting and confusing but it's all necessary. One day we'll slowly drift away because we all have lives we want to fulfill too. To see them receive everything they  could ever need and want because they all deserve the world. To love people with memories and emotions. To love every human behavior in friendships. To look out for each other silently and to feel the presence of girlhood. To appreciate them and thank universe for colliding great energies, to have these amazing people in this lifetime.